I hate to sound pessimistic, but we live in an increasingly immoral world. Certain behaviors once considered scandalous and taboo are now widely accepted and even promoted by Western society as a whole.
Particularly when it comes to sex and use of pornography, men are given a pass--often they are lauded--for "scoring," with as many women as possible. The active sexual life of a man is considered a sign of virility, and the use of pornography is considered "natural."
Not only do I find this descent from virtue repulsive as a women, I have seen close friends and relatives ensnared by the cruel beast of addiction. While not all mental health professionals are willing to categorize struggles with impulsive sexual behaviors as addiction, I have seen these associates suffer as they try to break free but then succumb over and over to their baser desires.
The signs of sexual addiction are many, but you may want to examine your feelings and behaviors closely. Because sex and sexuality are typically very private matters anyway, there are few formulaic questions I can tell you to pose to yourself.
But if this is a problem, you may get extremely defensive when questioned about your behaviors. You may have struggled with fidelity if you are in a relationship with a significant other or spouse. This does not necessarily mean that you have cheated, but you may have been sorely tempted to do so.
You may be unable to keep yourself from looking at pornography and/or masturbating, even when it is not convenient. Are you violating rules, such as getting around firewalls or misdirecting your mind while you are at work? These are all very serious signs.
If you fear that you may be trapped in the cycle of sexual addiction, you should know there is hope and help available to you. Avoid statements of resignation such as, "This is just the way I am," or, "This is normal. Men are supposed to be this way."
But on the other hand, you should not waste time berating yourself. In fact, allowing yourself to be consumed by guilt can fuel the cycle. You will try resisting, but you may develop such a self-deprecating attitude that in order to feel better, you seek a "pick-me-up," through pornography or sex with another individual.
You should, in fact, commit to changing your life. Seek an experienced counselor that specializes in addiction and shame recovery. A recovery group can also be beneficial. Be selective in who you confide in. Then seek to make amends and get your life back on track.
Author Resource:-
ThresholdsShame recovery is not something we can do on our own or by ourselves. Find out more details at Thresholds. Art Gib is a freelance writer.
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